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Pre-Marriage Education TestThere are many complex pre-marriage questionnaires available. This simpler test was devised by Institute for Social Invention members in response to the engagement announcement of one of its workers. The word 'marriage' is used here in the sense of any relationship likely to involve long-term responsibility in caring for offspring. Instructions When completing the test give marks out of 10 to the questions ('10 = Very True' down to '0 = Not True At All'). Answer the questions as honestly as possible since you do not have to show the results to anybody else - there is nobody to deceive but yourself. Decisions about who to marry and have children with are likely to have more effect on future happiness than any other decisions in life, so they are worth considering as soberly as possible, given that we can be so easily misled in the first flush of love. About half the following questions derive from academic research findings about long-term success and failure in marriage and human relationships. If both you and your partner are trying this test, it might be diplomatic not to show your marks on individual items to your partner, but simply to discuss your final marks together. Marriage Compatibility Rating TestInstructions
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(0=NOT TRUE, MAYBE=5, 10=VERY TRUE) |
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There is very little conflict in our relationship |
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| 2 | When there is conflict we handle it very satisfactorily. |
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| 3 | I find myself agreeing with my partner far more often than disagreeing. |
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| 4 | If my partner ended up developing a similar character to his/her parents, or became like them in old age, I would be very happy about this. |
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| 5 | I feel that I can share all my feelings, good and bad, with my partner and that he/she does the same with me. |
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| 6 | My partner is very similar to me in cultural, social, intellectual and economic background and probably in intelligence. |
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| 7 | We share similar philosophies of life or spiritual beliefs |
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| 8 | We share the same sense of humour |
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| 9 | My partner's health is good, I would describe them as a happy person & I don't think he/she is likely to suffer from depressions, obsessions, eating disorders, excessive anxieties or mental health problems. |
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| 10 | My partner is sensitive and kind and not selfish or self-obsessed. |
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| 11 | If I lived in a society where parents arranged marriages for their children, my partner is just the kind of person my parents might have chosen for me. |
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| 12 | We have a lot of conversational interests in common, I enjoy his/her conversation on a variety of topics and I like his/her friends |
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| 13 | Judging by track record to date, my partner is monogamous when in a serious relationship. |
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| 14 | We agree on the extent of freedom within marriage as regards other relationships and I therefore don't think jealousy will be a problem for either of us. |
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| 15 | Our sexual relationship is extremely good. |
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Scoring
Take away 10 if you have
lived together for less than six months. Add the scores
together and divide by 150 and multiply by 100 to get a percentage figure.
If you are less than 70% compatible you may well have to struggle hard to maintain a long-term relationship and might be well advised to delay having children for several years until you are sure that the relationship will work out.
Less than 50% compatibility could be a sign not to rush into marriage.
If you received a poor score or it was not as good as you expected you might need assistance from a pre-marriage educator. Click here to get information on the questionnaire
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